Which of you Fathers, if your daughter asks for a fish, will give her a snake instead?
It’s godly [God-like] for a man to protect and take charge. It’s not godly for a woman to take charge. While men have to learn how to be with a woman – and sometimes it takes a long time – they still have to be in charge and the woman must stop being in charge. Especially women that are strong women, or women that were single moms. women have learned they must be in charge because of circumstances.
When women are around men, they need to be able to let the female side of them surface, not the take charge side. That is hard, switching back and forth and some women never attain it.
Men tend to be lazy and not work hard at being in charge because they would rather just ‘let her do it, she wants too’. But that’s a lie, women don’t want too, they were forced too at some point in their lives. Also, some women haven’t learned the balance of being a strong woman and allowing the man to lead. It’s an art.
When a husband and wife have the headship correctly, it works. The marriage works. That’s how God intended it to be.
For a man to say, “you’re my girl”, it speaks of something deeply inside him that is different from the deep emotion attached to “you’re my woman”. “You’re my girl is protective, as a man should be toward a woman. “You’re my woman” is thinking like an equal, still protective, but on an equal basis.
God makes lemon chiffon pie out of lemons. When we mess up in our choices, God can and does turn it around if we lean into Him and do our best.
We are not so old. We are not as tired as we think. We tell ourselves all of that when we see photos of young people doing things.
WE have wisdom, understanding. WE know how to do xyz. WE can do things NOW, we couldn’t possibly do at their age and neither can they!
Some things take years to learn; skills, knowledge, confidence, know-how.
STOP looking at photos of younger people making leaps and in-roads in social media, in business, in life, thinking you are too old to contribute! Stop thinking you are too old to help another!
Stop thinking THEY are the innovative ones.
WE STILL have GIFTS to give to others. WE are the ones that have the SKILLS and KNOWLEDGE and UNDERSTANDING. US! THEY DON”T! Because they haven’t lived a life long enough.
I noticed when I just looked at a photo of young people getting innovative awards, I got tired. Thinking, ‘why bother’.
BECAUSE IF I DON’T, IF YOU DON’T, IT WON’T HAPPEN. The books won’t be written, the classes won’t be taught, the wisdom won’t be shared.
IF WE DO NOT SHARE THE WISDOM WE HAVE LEARNED AND GAINED THROUGH THE YEARS, who will?
If we think we’re ‘too old’, WHO then will give the gifts we have? WHO?
There are MILLIONS of people waiting for our wisdom, our strength, our understanding, our laughter.
Younger women WANT to be taught how to be a homemaker; how to evangelize, how to have a happy marriage, how to be a godly mother, how to can, how to obey God, how to have fun, how to live, how to be happy, how to knit, how to a million things.
Older women must teach younger women. You don’t HAVE to do it one on one, you can do it through writing a book, being a speaker, reading to children at the library, there are hundreds of ways to share your gifts and what you know.
Just STOP thinking you are ‘too old’ or ‘too tired’. You have gifts in you to share!