We’re told not to say ‘I don’t like this person’, but rather, ‘I don’t like what they are doing’.
When we say about someone, ‘they are mean’, or ‘they are so manipulative’, it’s the same thing. God told me I am NOT to say any of the above. He said my words carry missiles on them and to say something like that, seals those words over whomever I am saying them about. [as well, anything good I say seals it as well. The Word He gave me is pretty impressive, but I’m so worried about messing up, I am not looking at it from that point of view. yess yess, worry is a sin, would you rather I say I am ‘concerned’? eh]